2006! Already!

It didn't seem like that long ago that I had gotten married, but since yesterday, I have been married for 7 years. I had called my husband up at midnight and wished him a Happy anniversary as well as a happy new year.

I never could understand how people could fight. I don't mean just disagree, I mean yell, namecalling, bringing up old "sins", etc, etc. Disagreeing is normal since everyone is unique. My husband and I don't fight. We DO disagree in which we usually discuss it. In the end, I never come away from a disagreement annoyed or angry but rather enlighten about my husband's position - even if we still disagree.

I could never understand this "happiness" bit. I mean, does that mean being "giddy" on a perpetual basis? I've always made the best of any situation I'm in. I don't expect my husband to make me happy since I believe happiness is actually a perception. I can be miserable no matter what I get, or I can be happy no matter what happens. Even during my mild depression last winter (probably due to lack of sunlight), I don't recall actually being miserable. Just tired and kind of lazy. I also lost my appetite and lost 10 pounds, but I wouldn't recommend that as a diet, though. Other than that, I never felt like it was the end of the world. And I never blamed my husband when I felt down.

My do or die attitude might have contributed to how I handle marriage too. I don't believe in divorce. Period. I didn't believe in divorce before I was married either, which is probably why I didn't end up marrying on a whim. When I met my husband, I had a list of things I wanted in a guy that had to be met, before I fell in love. I didn't let myself fall in love until after I knew that this was the guy I wanted to live with for the rest of my life.

So what is it that couples really fight about? Statistics say "money", but after talking to a few married people, it seems that people might fight about money, but it usually starts with something really petty, like dirty socks on the floor. Is this true? Do people really get bent out of shape over simple things like that?